Helllppp!!! We just moved to a new house and have got caught in a feud between two families?

I'm a single parent. We have just moved to a nice friendly area and the kids from next door have ';adopted'; my daughter, who is eight but has a syndrome which means she is more like four. They come to play with her every day, which she loves. But the kids next door and their parents hate the girl down the road, who is also eight, and her little brother, and those kids want to come and play every day too.





Today the neighbour's kids turned up first and told me that they're not allowed to play with the other girl or her brother. So when the other girl rang the doorbell I stupidly ignored it and pretended we're not in (which we obviously were, because our car was outside).





Later the kids were playing in my daughter's room and someone started bashing really hard on the window. They didn't see who it was and they ran away. The rejected kids have a menacing big brother so now I'm worried!





I really don't want to get involved with all this, so how do I avoid upsetting everyone?Helllppp!!! We just moved to a new house and have got caught in a feud between two families?
Try talking to both sets of parents. Tell them that your child cannot handle too much company at once, so if the children don't have the parents call you before they come to visit, they might get turned away.


If the parents don't respect your wishes, then you will probably have to choose who you let visit, but that might be tough. Just remember. it's your daughter that is important here, and if the ';hooligans'; can't maintain civility, then it's not your problem.Helllppp!!! We just moved to a new house and have got caught in a feud between two families?
send everybody home. You will just have to make a rule that you have to call first and ask mom if it's o.k. to just come over. Also, if you're not careful, you could easily get turned into the afternoon babysitter. That's bulls*** , to just send kids over to play, ASSUMING it's o.k.... I'm a single mom, too......and ,I'll say no real quick, if I'm busy, tired, etc.... You have enough problems of your own. Do not get dragged into this. If there is a problem with the kids not ';playing nice'; or whatever, this should be talked about between parents, not sending ';messages'; via the kids !
Talk to the children's parents. If you have no problem with the other little girl playing with your daughter then I would suggest telling them to call before they come over so there would be not confrontation between the two sets of kids. And you should have answered the door and just told her she couldn't play with your daughter, cause you see where not answering got you.


If you are worried about the older brother and things start becoming a little stressed-do what everyone else does--call the cops. Just be ready to abide by what they tell you.
move im sorry its the best thing i can think of
well , your in a pickle ,i would explain to the kids next door,that your daughter likes playing with the kids down the street,you see when parents get involved it is always the kids who miss out,just because the lady down the street does not want her kids playing with them,does not mean your daughter can't, and hopefully they will understand,you have enough on your plate,being a single parent,and you and your daughter,should decide weather or not to let the kids down the street play,i hope this all works out for you and your little girl
First of all you yourself right in the middle of the battle by not answering the door. Next time answer the door and tell them your kids already have company and that's enough. They can come over and play later when company leaves. Number two, teach your children they can be friends with both-because on doesn't like the other is no reason they can't be friends to both. I have a neighbor whose kids are like that with a family here. My son has maintained friendship with both sides because he told them I am both your friend. The day you make me choose is the day I am neither's friend. He refuses to be a part of the feud.
Wow. I do not envy you. How awkward. You're really just going to have to call both sets of parents and explain to them what's going on and that you are just going to have to be considered neutral territory where both sets of kids are welcome. If they can't deal with that then they will have to be the ones to tell their kids that they shouldn't come over. If the kids come over then invite them in to play and if they realize the other kids are there then leave it to the ones at the door to decide whether to stay or not. You're just going to have to really avoid showing favoritism or choosing sides.