It's an emotional issue. Moving is a very stressful thing. There are so many things to consider and so much to do. Some people are upset by change, even when they know it's for the best. I don't find it surprising that a couple would have conflict about moving to a new house.Why would a husband %26amp; wife argue strongly when they are looking for another new house to move to?
Looking at the long run of things, they don't like the same houses, she's looking at the cleaning aspect, etc. etc.
stress.
major changes in life cause us to act in ways we would not usually see as an issue. ie: pms, menopause, midlife crisis. these are all times in life when people just don't add up. have you ever watched or experienced a woman with pms?? it's worse than bi-polar disease. now, DOUBLE it.
don't worry . . . it's normal.
and don't forget being tired. . .all that packing and planning for where to put everything (oh, and do we NEED all this STUFF??)
things should ease up when it's all said and done.
there is a website that might offer some advise for moving that might be helpful if you have time to sit in front of a computer for a while. (maybe to de-stress) :o)
visit flylady, she might be able to help, too.
good luck - hope this helps!
they need to find a place in the world in which they can both see themselves having a happy future together. they have to face the fact that they are not always going to agree on everything and take the time that they need to find that place that they are looking for. it is stressful but the main issues come from people trying to force their own ideals on each other. there is someplace out there for everybody.
You have different Tastes.
Moving is highly stressful. Maybe their marriage is already on the rocks and they thing a new house will temporarily fix their problems. Who knows.
Finding a place to live is a HUGE commitment. If they are buying a house, it is probably one of the largest purchases they are making togther in their entire life. It is super stressful.
Perhaps this subject of choosing and moving is about something deeper that is going on in this relationship. There may be a power struggle or a fear of the direction the relationship is moving toward. It may be that both of them are afraid of making the wrong choice and how that may effect the relationship. It could also be bringing up something from the past surrounding the moving experience.
I hope you find an answer that fits.
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